Have you ever thought that losing could be more gratifying than winning? You don’t agree? I understand, it’s pretty hard to imagine let alone understand.
The fear of losing, man I remember the times that even the mere thought of losing in any shape or form would basically make my world crumble.
Especially if you’re living in a highly competitive world where it seems that the public only look at the so called ‘winners’.
I mean, do you realize that many of us we were brainwashed with this mentality from childhood? I know, I know you’re probably thinking that being a winner is the only way to get ahead in life! Not so! Believe me that as gratifying it can seem it can also be very dangerous.
Now let’s take a look at the upside and downside to winning and losing, for example you could be a local tennis player, and you’ve won all the major tournaments in your neighborhood.
Admirable right? Everybody admires you? Winning feels great doesn’t it? I mean look at all the fringe benefits, a local hero is forever remembered, people smile at you on the street, the local butcher gives you a better discount, and your mechanic gives you a better deal than what he does with other clients.
Dating, it’s a game! Being a winner honestly is one of the best feelings that anyone could ever imagine, and believe it or not, many a time you take this feeling wherever you go and in other areas of your personal life.
Please don’t misunderstand, I’m not against winning and I’m not as some people put it trying to justify my failures with gratifying philosophy.
I’ll explain better, there is nothing wrong with being a winner, it also gives you a sense of power and security, remember that winning is only one side of the coin.
Now the problem is that your attitude as a winner extends on many levels, in school, study, university, college, work environment, other sporting associations you name it, the list goes on and on.
Did you know that many people believe that the measure of their success extends to being better than those that surround your chosen vocation? Umm, maybe you don’t get my meaning but the term success or being a winner can end up being a very dangerous game.
To be the best model or beauty queen, look at what people do to themselves to have whatever it takes to succeed.
Being the best meant that I would do whatever it took to always win.
Never losing never losing and never losing, man it sounds great but is it? Tell me something, do you really learn when you only win? Think about it.
Now look at something else, when you only win in life what happens to you when you lose? Honestly, what happens? Did you know that there are people out there that suicide not knowing how to deal with failure? Do you think it’s only about winning? I mean what does winning really mean any way? There is an old warrior’s code that talks about losing.
You know people need to stop fearing failing or losing, the most important thing is to always keep trying, to accept that falling and losing is part of the cycle that you need to learn from your mistakes.
Failing and falling are the same as winning, they both have rewards to offer, to be complete in life it is fundamental you understand the importance of losing and all it has to teach you.
There are highly successful people out their who have not allowed their winnings to go to their head. They still remain humble and down to earth every day people.
As much as we all love to win and all the fringe benefits that go with it there are certain cultures that feel it is bad and harmful to nourish the ego with a one minded philosophy.
When you start looking at failures as a success then you are well on your way to being always a winner.
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