Most people are so focused on being civil and not wanting to risk doing the wrong thing they don’t know when it’s time to use force and they end up trying to reason with their attacker while their attacker is busy killing them.
Many times a police officer is dealing with a suspect and they don’t realize when that person makes the jump “Person to predator” or from “Social to asocial” and they end up getting seriously injured or killed because of it.
If the gorilla does fight he doesn’t try to kill his rival but rather run him off.
He approaches trying not to spook his intended prey.
He tries to move carefully with no unnecessary movement or noise.
The two examples above describe the two paradigms of violence, “Posturing/social” and “Predatory/asocial.” When people think about “Fighting” what most people think about is “Social violence.” Social violence is doing violence with the goal not being the violence itself but rather socializing and communication.
Here there is no sporting aspect but the aggressor isn’t trying to kill or seriously injure the other person but rather make them back down, run them off their turf, or make submit in some way.
If someone is acting like the gorilla you are dealing with posturing, social violence, and the person isn’t trying to seriously injure or kill you but rather communicate something with you.
Trying to reason with someone that is trying to stab you to death isn’t going to work.
It is imperative that you learn how to recognize asocial behavior because if you don’t you will be caught off guard and you’ll be using social methods to deal with the person who is trying to kill you, which is like a gazelle trying to talk the lion out of killing him.
Are they a gorilla or a lion? A gorilla tries to appear as big as possible because he’s trying to intimidate you while a lion tries to appear small as possible because they are trying to go unnoticed until it is too late.
A gorilla looks you in the eyes and makes scary faces because he’s trying to intimidate you while a lion looks through you because you’re just a piece of meat to tear apart.
A gorilla tries standing tall to appear bigger or taller than you; they may also raise their chin so they have to look down at you, because he’s trying to intimidate you while a lion does the opposite.
A gorilla makes faces and is loud because he’s trying to intimidate you while a lion is perfectly silent because he is not trying to communicate with you and his face is blank because he is concentrating on his task at hand.
Someone who is posturing and trying to intimidate you is not trying to kill you so you should use social skills to deal with the situation; while someone who is exhibiting asocial traits should be dealt with with violence right away because they are trying to kill you and not intimidate you.
So as soon as that happens by brain instantly says “OK, this is an asocial situation, it is me or you, and I’m going to try to make it you.” My second kinetic trigger is seeing someone “Go predator” or recognizing asocial.
If someone is posturing and they put their hands on me depending on how much of a threat I feel I might use a joint lock or a pressure point to try to restrain them; but if I detect asocial body language then all restraining goes right out the window because he is going lethal right away so if I want to survive I have to go lethal right away too.
He’ll start talking to a guy who is perfectly social and then the guy will start posturing and may start to resist the officer and so the officer tries to restrain the individual and then suddenly you see the guy’s body language change and the officer isn’t trained to notice it.
Suddenly they “Go predator” and now it is an asocial situation where they guy is trying to kill the officer and the officer is still not responding with deadly force.
No one talks and no one smiles or tries to communicate with their partner.
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